Adam was alone he was tending the Garden. Apart from the fellowship he had with God at the cool of the day, there was nobody he could interact with. There was nobody he could perfect the language that God had given him with. The creation itself was perfect. The only thing that God described as imperfect about creation is the loneliness of man. “And the Lord said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18 Something important was conspicuously missing. Adam could not figure it out. But God understood the situation. A need arose and the Creator was up to the task. Please note the key word. God said I would make “a help-meet for him,” not against him. Somebody is needed that would perfectly meet the criteria and needs of Adam. A help meet that will be a partner with Adam and not a contender with him. A help meet that would bring about mutual love, mutual attraction and mutual understanding between the two of them. A help meet that Adam could relate with, plan with, walk hand in hand with and trust concerning the calling of God in his life. The purpose of Eve in the life of Adam was to fill the empty vacuum of his life. God carefully planned and customized the creation of Eve to be compatible with the needs of Adam. The conceived thought of God on how to solve the problem of loneliness of man brought about the ministry of woman which is a ministry of help.
Every unit of families on earth is a project in the hand of God. God intends that each family may be a reflection of His glory. God appointed a man as the leader of the family to oversee the affairs of the family. An adage says, “Charity begins at home.” The dominion of a man starts from his family. Man must dominate in setting goals and rules and must dominate in living each day by the righteous rules he had set for his family. As a leader he must lead by example. Man set the goals therefore he must dominate in the responsibilities of his home. God did not give man fifty-fifty principle of handling the responsibilities of his home. This is one of the selfish devices of man. The man and his wife are one before God, their goals and plans before God are one, their thoughts and purposes, one. Therefore the couple’s purse and their expenses must be one. God only see one unit of family and not two people in a family as man had selfishly broken down his family into fractional unit.
Man was created to be in dominion upon all the creation on the surface of the earth. Therefore the calling of man is to take charge of the earth, to be a co-creator with God Almighty and put a finishing touch upon all the creation on the surface of the earth. The calling of a woman is ministry of help—to help her husband in his calling so that the purposes of God can be fulfilled in his life. The dominion calling of a man should not be misconstrued to treat his wife as a servant but rather as a joint-partner in his mission on earth. Woman is ordained to be man’s helper, to help him in overcoming and subduing situations around him for the purpose of their sustenance. This requires his setting a broad goal and ensuring that they are accomplished. His decision may be somehow irrational at times especially when his ego is in conflict with his sense of reasoning. Perhaps that is how he thought he can channel his wisdom to accomplish his goal. The truth that must be understood here is that, he is operating within the limitation of his wisdom. Nonetheless, the timely advice of his wife, although may seem to have been set aside, is the subconscious pilot that is guiding him to ensure that he did not fail in his efforts.
The ministry of a woman is catalyzing to the ministry of man to fill the gap of imperfection in man and to help wherever help is required in the life of man. This requires her working with him side-by-side to ensure that the purposeful end justifies the effort. Her decision and her method of operation always possess human face because of her inherent care and sense beauty. Again the nature of her method of operation may seem to be time consuming because of the detailed and meticulous way women handle things. The man’s objective may provide structure to a goal but woman sets her focus on the outcome of the effort. She smoothen the rough edges of the goal and applies beautiful color to the outcome in order to bring forth glory to God Almighty. The intention of God concerning their lives is that their relationship may be mutually dependent upon each other at the same time mutually beneficial for each other. The termites and the bees understand this situation differently. They see their queen as the pillar of their colonies. They see prosperity in her. They behold strength in her. They build their colony around the queen. They treat her with utmost care and respect. I just wish man can have these basic principles at the back of their mind in dealing with their spouses.
The Lord Almighty, a thoughtful Father, knew that they should have something important in common before the criteria compatibility could be met. Think of it, the dust from which Adam was created was not in short supply, the breath of life was still with the Ancient of Days, but He chose to create Eve in a unique way for a unique purpose. God Almighty caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep and his rib bone was removed to create the first human female. That was it. God created Eve to be a blessing to Adam. The mystery of blessing of woman was revealed in her creation. One rib bone that was taken from Adam in the hand of the Creator was sufficient to create the entire structure of a whole woman—Eve. At creation, the nature of man gives to woman and the nature of woman receives from man. At the point of receiving everything that man can give his wife, God intercepts the gift, blesses it, and causes it to multiply in the hand of woman. A woman is designed to be a blessing in the home of a man, because when a little gets into the hand of a woman, it becomes plenty. Man possesses millions of seeds but none of them can result into a whole human being in a man but when few of these seeds get into a woman it will result into a whole human being. Even in the age of cloning, woman is still the glorious vessel that brings every single human being in to this world.
Woman is not only a loving mother; she is also a tender loving care giver. Man loves to be identified as the father of a child but he does not know how to nurse a baby. The night crying of the infant is disturbing to him. The night crying of the baby is not disturbing to her rather it is a call to her responsibilities. The general weakness of woman’s body that associated with delivery does not deter woman from applying the tender loving care to breast-feed the baby in the night. No matter how tired she is and no matter how deep she sleeps, she will still pick that tiny cry of her baby and she will wake up to nurse it. Man cannot stand the stinking odor of the infant’s diaper, not to talk of changing it. Some men do not know how to carry a little baby tenderly with their muscular hands. When they do, the baby would cry because of the extra-strong hands that is holding it far away from the bosom position the baby is used to. You can now behold the beauty of the creation of woman to compliment and meet the necessary needs in the life of man.
Creativity is another quality of woman. If God did not bless Adam with Eve, he will still be eating the yams and grains raw like animals. Give a woman bag of flour she will turn it around to become bread, cake or apple-pie. Give a woman a bag of rice; she will turn it to jollof-rice or fried-rice. They know the right measure of seasoning on meat; they know the right amount of salt needed in soup. The varieties of food that we have today are the handiwork of the creativity of a dutiful woman. If you want to expose the imperfectness of a man, ask him to cook a pot of soup. A friend was asked to make pot of soup one day. He poured half gallon oil in the pot. He emptied six cans of tomato pastes and one and a half cup of salt in the pot. He added assorted meat and He covered the pot and left it on the burner for two hours. If the soup is not salty, certainly the tomato paste was more than necessary for a pot of soup. It will take an absolute tolerance in the name of ‘love’ before his wife will be able to eat the soup.
The widow cried out in despair to Elisha, the prophet of God, that the creditors were coming to take her two boys as slaves. Although she was a wife of a deceased priest of God, she did not understand the mystery of blessing attached to her creation, but the man of God, Elisha, was not ignorant. He knew this secret. Elisha replied to her, “How can I help you? Tell me, what do you have in your house?” The widow replied, “Your servant has nothing there at all, except a little oil.” ‘A little,’ that was all that the man of God wanted to hear because God does not need ‘a lot’ to bless a woman. Elisha said, “Go around and ask all you neighbors for empty jars. Don’t ask for just a few. Then go inside and shut the door behind you and your sons. Pour oil into all the jars, and as each is filled, put it to one side.” (II King 4:1-4) Behind a closed door, there is something that a woman can do to make her life better. A woman can righteously set a broad scope of goals and tap in into the divine blessing of God attached to her creation to solve any problem in her family. Behind a closed door a woman can stand on her two feet and declare, “Enough of the wicked activities of enemy in her home,” and Heaven will intervene on her behalf. Behind a closed door a woman can tap into the Throne of grace in her prayer and obtain divine favor from God. The man of God evoked the miracle that is attached to the covenanted blessing of the creation of the first woman in the beginning to bless the widow. If man desires the blessing of God to the fullest, woman is an inevitable individual that man should deal with along the journey of his life. “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtained favour of the Lord.” (Proverb 18:22) A wife is a double blessing unto man. She is not only a ‘good thing,’ she is the avenue through which man can obtain favor of the Lord.
Lastly, one of the mysterious attribute of woman is belief. That is why in any gathering of the children of God today, the population of woman is always more than that of men. If you have a believing wife that believes in you and also believes in the same Almighty God you believe in, there is nothing you jointly set your mind upon that you will not be able to accomplish.
Happy Mother’s Day, Blessed of the Lord