One cannot discuss anger management without having a clear understanding of what anger is. A dictionary defined the word ‘anger’ as a strong emotional feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility. Anger is a natural feeling or emotion and it’s inherent in the character of every human being on earth. It functions in the character of individuals as a protective mechanism from whatever he or she considered as wrong doing. Some express anger mildly in verbal or non-verbal body language to indicate their displeasure about a certain issue. On the other hand some manifest it in a strong verbal aggression to register their displeasure and possibly with further physical violent reaction that can cause destruction of life and properties as way of venting anger. Some would hit the wall and in the process break their knuckles. Some engage in a wanton destruction of property, even their own personal properties as a way to express their displeasure.
There are combination of factors that are responsible for the feeling of anger in man. This includes poor interpersonal relationship, injustice in the society, stress, disappointments and a feeling of being treated inappropriately. One of the factors that causes problems of anger among the siblings is too much expectation they have for each other. They always concluded against each other, saying “he or she supposed to know better’ because they have the same orientation from the same parents. In some cases, deteriorating physical health or mental sickness may be the factor behind violence anger feeling.
A school of thought is of the opinion that anger is a normal, usually healthy human emotion. Regardless of the various school of thought, human feeling or emotion is expected to be subjected under human control. The word of God enlightens us concerning this. It says, “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.” (Ephesians 4:26-27 KJV) “Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent.” (Psalm 4:4 NLT) Surely in our relationship with humanity, someone will definitely step on our toes. It takes the grace of God to be angry without sinning. Even Moses, the servant of God, who was adjudged as the meekest man on earth, “Now the man Moses was very meek, above all the men which were upon the face of the earth” (Numbers 12:3 KJV) when he came down from Mount Sinai where he went to receive The Commandment of God, he learnt that the Israelites had descended so low into worshiping idol god, “… as soon as he came nigh unto the camp, that he saw the calf, and the dancing: and Moses’ anger waxed hot, and he cast the tables out of his hands, and brake them beneath the mount.” (Exodus 32:19 KJV) Moses reacted angrily and cast the tablets of the precious Ten Commandments, written by the fingers of God to the ground and broke them. He thereby ruined his forty days and nights consecration and holy sojourn in the presence of God on the mount because of anger. The same undue expression of anger was the reason why Moses did not get to the Promised Land. He saw it afar off but did not get there.
Perhaps you are finding it difficult to subject your feelings under your control, there is a better and sure alternative. In humility unto God, do everything to subject your feelings and emotion under the control of the word of God. The scripture encouraged us saying, “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.” (Ecclesiastes 7:9 KJV) The Psalmist revealed that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made…” (Psalm 139:14 KJV) The Creator created His perfect and precious image in us at the beginning. We are His masterpiece He created at the beginning. He did not create foolishness in us. We should not make fool of ourselves in the way we angrily express our displeasure. When anger gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to so many problems—problems with co-workers and clients at work, problem in the inter-personal relationships with people at home and in the household of faith, and above all it can affect overall quality of life. The word of God admonished further saying, “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1) “By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.” (Proverbs 25:15) “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.” (Proverbs 16:32 KJV)
There is no man-made philosophical or physical therapy that can better manage emotional feelings of anger than the word of God. In His infinite mercy, the Lord had inspired us to process His word in our heart so that we can apply wisdom to control undue expression of anger. “Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.” (Psalm 119:11 KJV) Finally, the word of God encourages us, saying, “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:31-32 KJV) Let us subject our stresses, disappointments and injustice that we see in our society today to the control of the word of God in order to perfectly subject the management of the expression of our displeasure to the glory of God.
Prayer: O Lord, I surrender all my life to the inspiration of Your wisdom. Let the rule of Holy Spirit be imposed in my feelings and emotion and in the way I express my life forth with. Let the expression of my characters give glory unto your holy name, in Jesus name, Amen